The Difference Between High-Maintenance and Low-Maintenance Friendships (And Why It’s Okay to Want Either!)

Hey, you! 🌟

I’ve been thinking a lot about friendships lately—especially the different types of friendships we have throughout our lives. As we get older, it’s harder to find genuine connections, and sometimes it can feel like there’s a lot of pressure to maintain the “perfect” friendship.

Some friends want to text every day, call on the reg, and check in constantly—and if you’re someone who isn’t into that, it can feel overwhelming, right? But then there are those friends who you only talk to once a month and everything still feels completely chill. So, which one is "right"? Here's the thing: both are totally fine. 🙌🏾

The key difference between high-maintenance and low-maintenance friendships comes down to how much communication and emotional investment each person wants or needs. For some, texting every day or calling often feels natural and comforting. For others, that level of commitment might feel draining or unnecessary.

It’s really all about understanding your own needs and finding friends who vibe with that. No one should have to constantly over-explain why they need space or feel guilty for wanting more frequent communication. Setting boundaries and communicating clearly is honestly one of the healthiest things you can do for your friendships. And guess what? You can have both kinds of friendships—as long as you’re honest about what you need and are respectful of each other’s space and time.

I’ve learned the hard way that genuine friendships are rare, so when you find a friend who “gets” you—whether you’re texting once a week or once a year—hold onto them. Being honest about what you need in a friendship can save you so much heartache and disappointment. And, most importantly, it helps you build friendships that actually make you feel good. ✨

So, do you lean more toward high-maintenance or low-maintenance friendships? Or are you somewhere in between? Drop a comment and let me know what kind of friendships you value the most. 👇🏾

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